Stories & Experiences
Breaking the Silence on Miscarriage!
"Miscarriage is still such a taboo topic especially in our culture, so many people avoid talking about it. But as women, we need those conversations. We need reassurance that we’re not alone, and that what we’ve gone through is, sadly, something that happens more often than people realise. So many of us end up blaming ourselves, thinking we did something wrong. But I’ve read that, medically, the body often rejects a pregnancy if there’s an issue with the sperm or other genetic factors. It’s not always something we can control and it’s certainly not our fault. That’s why I really appreciate that you’ve taken it upon yourself to create a space where women feel seen, heard, and empowered. It means more than you know."
Anonymous
Breaking the Silence
Encountered several cases of pregnancy loss!
I have encountered several cases of pregnancy loss at the clinic, and I have observed the following issues that need to be addressed:
There is no proper system of attendance for these women. For example, they have to follow the same queue as nursing mothers. The only consideration currently given is that they are attended to as quickly as possible so that they can leave early. While this helps to reduce their exposure to a stressful environment, it is not an adequate solution.
Proper counselling is lacking. In most cases, they only receive a few words of condolence and nothing more, yet they would greatly benefit from several counselling sessions. They also lack information about when it is medically appropriate to try for another pregnancy. Sometimes, a woman may experience pregnancy loss multiple times within a short period, such as three consecutive months, because she keeps trying again without recognising the importance of allowing her body and mind to recover.
Family counselling is also needed. Husbands and in-laws (mamazalas) often put unnecessary pressure on these women, adding to their emotional distress.
There is a lack of specialised care and financial support for women who may have underlying medical conditions requiring further investigation or treatment. The same challenge is seen in cases of infertility.
These women are not given enough time to grieve. They are often discouraged from crying or openly expressing their emotions, which is unrealistic and emotionally harmful.
Anonymous
Encountered several cases of pregnancy loss